Our patients recreate their problematic relationship patterns with us in the therapy relationship. Our unavoidable participation in these patterns provides a crucial window into our patients’ inner worlds.
Our unexpected participation in problematic relational patterns necessarily stirs up difficult feelings for us. It is not a question of if we experience difficult feelings but whether or not we use them constructively, as a source of understanding. Parallel feelings and patterns often emerge in clinical consultation (the phenomenon of “parallel process”), often providing rich insights into clinical challenges.
Because clinical consultation is most helpful when therapists speak openly and freely, I work to foster the mutual trust necessary for open communication. In theoretical terms, I strive to provide a frame that facilitates exploration of transference, countertransference, enactments, and parallel process.
Consultation sessions typically move fluidly between process and technique, theory, and practical clinical guidance. I draw on multiple theoretical models according to their relevance to the work. One theoretical lens does not fit all.